Can military relationships survive cheating?

[Chelese]

i was reading an article on how many military couples have cheated on each other and survived. I know there are rumors of those wives who cheat on their husbands during deployment or those husbands who cheat on their wives when they aren't living with their wives.

I have seen so many other military couples cheating on each other and even had what was my best friend go after my own husband while her husband was on deployment so I was just wondering what peoples views are out there.. and if a marriage could work after such a trust breaking event like cheating occurs?

Share any stories or opinions or whatever you feel like sharing just interested in what others think about the subject. Can a military marriage survive cheating?

[bigissue]

i'm goin to sit back and read replies on this! dealin with this shit myself and being gone dont help. i'll check back!

[Ken Whitewolf]

My response is very simple but I will admit that it is not very indepth, I have been there and it can be easy to forgive but it is very hard to forget.

[bigissue]

guess i find out when i return home! as it stands now its OVER!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

[Ruth]

I think this applies to any relationship and the biggest thing is whether you can ever trust that person again and if you can't then I don't think the relationship will survive! As without trust what is there? If you don't have trust then I think the doubt will keep knorring away at you and will cause the relationship to end.

[Warner]

Main reason I didn't get married at a young age was because I knew I would be a cheater ... Too horny.. But now that I've gotten older, I truly understand that one woman's Love is priceless. So I'm searching for the woman who can deal with a military man who gets deployed alot. Because as people we make mistakes but cheating ... Once you lose the trust its so hard to get it back.

[Stephanie]

I totally agree. When I got divorced from my daughters' father, I told myself....MILITARY ONLY! They have their shit together. Well...boy did I get slapped in the face!!! LOL Most of them do, but as Warner just said, there are those who, just b/c they are gone, they have needs too. Just like us women do. And that is SO true. I really symphathize with that. BUT.....if the trust is broken b/c of normal hormones going whack....it is really hard to get back. I myself just broke up with someone who is just 3 hours up the road from me, b/c I KNOW in my heart he wasn't being faithful. And the way that I look at it is this......I have ALOT of love to give and he could'nt respect me enough to keep his YOU KNOW WHAT put away for ONE WEEK, then what's to happen is he gets deployed??? I keep my pants on. I loved him. I gave him my everything. And I still love him. Can't just let something like that go away overnight. It has to be 110% from BOTH parties to withstand temptation.

[Jenny]

I remember when I was in my early 20's I had a boyfriend in the Navy. He went on WESTPAC and people were calling me a WESTPAC WIDOW. It sucked that he was gone for 6 months but then I thought about all the other families who had loved ones gone for a 1yr to 2 yrs. So my 6 months was nothing. Yes, it was hard but the letters helped back then there was no email or internet. I must've sent him letters with in that first week he was gone and 3 care packages within the 2 weeks of him being gone. I miss being with someone in the military and being able to write to them.

Yeah, it sucks not to see them 9-5 like other familes see their spouses/boyfriends/girlfriends,etc... on a day to day basis but I am independent person. I made it through the 6 months!

If I met someone in the military and it lead into something further and that person had to go away for a long period of time. I would be confident that I could handle myself. Yes there would be temptations but there is always temptations everywhere you look. You just have to know your limits.